Don’t get mad. Get calm. Ask yourself: “Do I really want to be angry?” Leonard Scheff, a trial attorney who used anger to fuel his courtroom persona, realized the answer had to be no. Anger is toxic. Anger is in the eyes of the beholder. Using simple Buddhist principles and applying them in a way that is easy for non-Buddhists to understand and put into practice, Scheff and Susan Edmiston have created an interactive book that helps readers change perspective, step-by-step, so that they can replace the anger in their lives with newfound happiness. Based on the Transforming Anger workshop Shceff created, The Cow in the Parking Lot shows how anger is based on unmet demands, from the reasonable (we want love from our partner) to the irrational (we want respect from a total stranger) to the impossible (we want someone to fix everything in our life). The authors show how, once we identify our real unmet demands, we can dissolve the anger. The same is true for our “buttons”—once we understand them, we can defuse what happens when they’re pushed. We learn to laugh at ourselves, a critical early step in changing angry behavior. We learn how to deal with the anger of others, and ultimately how to transform anger into compassion. And finally, we learn the liberating truth: Only you can make yourself angry.
Do you find yourself: • Becoming so angry you have trouble thinking? • Acting impulsively during angry outbursts? • Getting so mad that you feel out of control of your actions? If these strong, sudden bursts of anger sound all too familiar, you know the impact they have over your life. Over time, these responses can actually hard-wire our brains to respond angrily in situations that normally wouldn’t cause us to lose our cool. These anger pathways in the brain can eventually disrupt your work, strain your relationships, and even damage your health. Written by anger management expert Ronald Potter-Efron, Healing the Angry Brain can help you short-circuit the anger cycle and learn to calmly handle even the most stressful interactions. You will learn which areas of your brain are causing your reactions and discover how to take control of your emotions by rewiring your brain for greater patience and perspective. This fascinating, scientific approach to anger management will yield long-term results, helping you develop greater empathy and put effective conflict resolution skills into practice for years to come.
This new book from anger expert Potter-Efron offers powerful, emergency help to anyone whose extreme and volatile rages cause him or her to lose control of emotions, behaviors, and even conscious awareness--causing sometimes irreparable emotional and physical harm to themselves, their loved ones, and, occasionally, to innocent by-standers.
A Books on Prescription Title Take control of your anger and improve your quality of life Constant irritability or flashes of bad temper can cause difficulties in relationships with friends, family or colleagues and leave us feeling unhappy and exhausted. If you find yourself struggling to control your rage and often regret inappropriate reactions, this book can really help. It explains clearly what provokes anger and what you can do to prevent it. Techniques based on cognitive behavioural therapy offer a positive approach with long-term goals in mind, and show how you can stay cool and successfully handle situations that would tax even the most easy-going person. Contains a complete self-help program and monitoring sheets Based on clinically proven cognitive behavioural therapy From a trusted mental-health practitioner with experience in working with prisoners and those exhibiting extreme behaviours
A revised and updated edition of the popular self-help book for men that addresses contemporary issues and how they impact the way men deal with anger Men tend to express their anger differently than women do. Research shows men are often more violent and less willing to confront and deal with their emotions than women. Written by a psychologist who specializes in the treatment of male rage, Beyond Anger shows the angry--and miserable--man how to change his life and relationships for the better. This book helps men understand their anger by explaining what the specific symptoms of chronic anger are and by showing angry men how their actions negatively affect family, friends, and coworkers. It helps men control violent feelings by using simple exercises--developed especially for men--to identify when and why anger occurs and by helping them form new habits to prevent anger before it starts. Women, too, will learn essential strategies for understanding and helping the angry men in their lives. Beyond Anger is honest, tough, and real. In this revised edition, Harbin will update references throughout and discuss new topics such as the role of the internet and social media in fueling anger and how to protect yourself against these pitfalls, as well as a discussion on anger and aging, the political landscape and anger, PTSD, a brand-new section on preventing relapse into anger, and many other relevant, timely topics.
Mindfulness for Anger Management puts mindfulness into action with transformative skills and real strategies for overcoming anger and taking control of powerful emotions. Mindfulness is more than a philosophy for anger management--it's a daily practice. Transforming wisdom into actionable exercises, Mindfulness for Anger Management equips you with concrete skills and strategies to overcome anger with mindfulness. Dr. Stephen Dansiger, a licensed therapist with 25 years of experience combining evidence-based therapeutic methods and spiritual practices, turns your gaze inward to understand anger triggers and address accompanying thoughts, feelings, and body sensations. With a focus on the real-life areas that anger impacts--home, work, and relationships--the self-reflective exercises and practical tactics in Mindfulness for Anger Management allow you to take control of your emotions and live every moment mindfully. Mindfulness for Anger Management helps you recycle angry energy, see it for what it is, and allow you to manage anger and other difficult emotions with: An introduction to anger management that defines different kinds of anger from frustration and annoyance to aggression and rage, and includes self-assessments to measure your personal anger level. Practical exercises that combine evidence-based emotion regulation techniques with mindfulness skills in self-assessments, checklists, and reflective prompts to equip you to handle anger when it strikes. Real-world applications that focus on how anger affects life, including work, relationships, and personal well-being. Anger is a natural component of our emotional experiences, but it can also consume us if left unchecked. Mindfulness for Anger Management gives you a skill set and mindset that will change your relationship to anger and empower you to run your own life.
The author relates his experiences working five months undercover at a slaughterhouse, and explores why society encourages this violent labor yet keeps the details of the work hidden.
Excessive anger is very destructive. The Anger Sourcebook pulls together all of the diverse elements needed to transform anger into inner peace, empowering individuals to redirect their seemingly uncontrollable anger into constructive behaviour.
Donald Shoup brilliantly overcame the challenge of writing about parking without being boring in his iconoclastic 800-page book The High Cost of Free Parking. Easy to read and often entertaining, the book showed that city parking policies subsidize cars, encourage sprawl, degrade urban design, prohibit walkability, damage the economy, raise housing costs, and penalize people who cannot afford or choose not to own a car. Using careful analysis and creative thinking, Shoup recommended three parking reforms: (1) remove off-street parking requirements, (2) charge the right prices for on-street parking, and (3) spend the meter revenue to improve public services on the metered streets. Parking and the City reports on the progress that cities have made in adopting these three reforms. The successful outcomes provide convincing evidence that Shoup’s policy proposals are not theoretical and idealistic but instead are practical and realistic. The good news about our decades of bad planning for parking is that the damage we have done will be far cheaper to repair than to ignore. The 51 chapters by 46 authors in Parking and the City show how reforming our misguided and wrongheaded parking policies can do a world of good.
Named a New York Times Notable Book of the Year Shortlisted for the Center For Fiction First Novel Prize Named a Booklist Best Book of the Year A mesmerizing, indelible coming-of-age story about a girl in Boston's tightly-knit Ethiopian community who falls under the spell of a charismatic hustler out to change the world A haunting story of fatherhood, national identity, and what it means to be an immigrant in America today, Nafkote Tamirat's The Parking Lot Attendant explores how who we love, the choices we make, and the places we’re from combine to make us who we are. The story begins on an undisclosed island where the unnamed narrator and her father are the two newest and least liked members of a commune that has taken up residence there. Though the commune was built on utopian principles, it quickly becomes clear that life here is not as harmonious as the founders intended. After immersing us in life on the island, our young heroine takes us back to Boston to recount the events that brought her here. Though she and her father belong to a wide Ethiopian network in the city, they mostly keep to themselves, which is how her father prefers it. This detached existence only makes Ayale’s arrival on the scene more intoxicating. The unofficial king of Boston’s Ethiopian community, Ayale is a born hustler—when he turns his attention to the narrator, she feels seen for the first time. Ostensibly a parking lot attendant, Ayale soon proves to have other projects in the works, which the narrator becomes more and more entangled in to her father’s growing dismay. By the time the scope of Ayale’s schemes—and their repercussions—become apparent, our narrator has unwittingly become complicit in something much bigger and darker than she ever imagined.